Wednesday, December 21, 2005

Its about to be a what, girl fight.

well a girl and a bitch, let me explain, the other week me and bree met up at friday's to chill at the bar, yeah i know we spend more time at the bar than a lil bit....so we chillin at the bar next thing i hear is "My hand wasnt in yo face. Let me get up before we have a problem." this said by the female to a male, she actually got up from her seat at the bar next to dude and sat else where, leaving her girlfriend at the bar....all the while she kept running her mouf talking bout "you dont know me" he dont know who he messing with, calling this man every bitch in the book...now i never heard him say anything but i could see his lips move.....she was the loud one, i could tell she had one too many.....so it calmed down for a while, all was quite, im gettin back to my drink and convo.....next thing i hear, is the man say well say it in my face, then he proceeds to get up walk to the girl and punch her dead in the eye......da hell....bartendars jumping over the bar, no cop to be found though, which is crazy since they be holding friday's down on the off duty patrole and ish......his boys did not stop his man from makiing a bitch out of himself...the cops finally come over as his friends were escorting the bitch out the resturant. And you know what he says: "She provoked me." I could not believe my ears, now the girl was annoying, and was talking mad shit, but talk is all she did....he had no business putting his hands on her....maybe she'll keep her mouf in check next time, u never know whose gonna call ur bluff.

so what she get for all her trouble, a cut on the side of her eye.....after talking to the cops, she obtained contact information from the ppl setting at the bar, i guess she couldnt beat his ass so she gonna litigate.....

Wednesday, December 07, 2005

Closure

What most women need and most men refuse to give. Why do men do this? Why not let us go? You may have alluded that it was over or said in a phone call, but you deny us closure by not giving us the real reason why it did not work. Instead we get: "It's not you, it's me.", "I'm not good enough for you." or "You deserve much better." Men these are not valid reasons for WHY you've ended the relationship. And you wonder why some of us, blow up your phone afterwards. We do this because you stole our right to closure, 1. we never got to say our peace and 2. we still dont know what went wrong....9 times out of 10 before hearing this bombshell, we didnt even know anything was wrong. I think yall do this on purpose, so that we dont let go. you wanna leave the door open, so you can wiggle your way back in, when you get good and ready. Its not fair and its an act of a coward.

Breaking up with someone via phone, email, or text message does not give the other person the closure that a face to face conversation will give. It doesnt give them a chance to see your expression, ask questions they may be swirling through their mind, or look into your eyes and know that this is truely done and over with. Anyone who has every been in love or at least thought they were knows that break ups are hard, but they are even harder without closure....you end up asking yourself the questions you want to ask them, knowing you cant answer them......

MEN stop it, man up give us closure. let us move on. hey we may even learn valuable lessons, from what you have to tell us...something we may not be able to understand at the moment, but can appreciate later.....And women you have to be able to hear what is said, take the criticism, move on and let go, he may not want you, but trust someone else does, just walk away knowing he's the one that's missing out on a good thing, its his loss........ *jumps off soap box*

Monday, December 05, 2005

He did it again

So why da hell am i surprised. I sware I am too too trusting. Who he you ask, the roommate that never was (RTNW).....He as been pulling this same shit since September.....saying he's gonna move-in then he doesn't. I get no calls, no explanation, just a no show.....i told him once twice three tiems before if he doesnt wanna move in just say so, so i can do what i need to do....its like clock work when ever it nears time for him to move-in something comes up, 1... he loaned his brother some money, 2. his son's footballl, so he was too busy, 3. he gotta pay $400 in tickets.....these are all things that happen in life, so what if they happened and he already moved in, does he think he cna postpone giving me my money... But the thing about the tickets, Dec. excuse these tickets are not due yet......but his future, not really a wife, ex-wife told him he had to pay them now cause they are in her name.....WTF she cant make him pay them now...he just needs to pay them by the due date, which is what i told him....i told him do what you want but i would've told her ass they will be paid by the due date and left it at that....she can't make him do anything...he wouldn't be in the situation if he had of put the car in his name anyway, now she's treating to take the tags...cause they are in her name, he says the title is in his name, but i dont understand how you got a new title with out new plates....... I told his ass, its not that big of a deal he cant move-in its that he blind sides me or doesnt communicate with me at all....i need to know whats going on so i can plan accordingly, i dont think what im asking for is unreasonable...

Its only been by the grace of god that i've been able to make these months work...not to mention the fact the damn mortgage company done sold both my mortgages, so my check take for ever and a day to clear......Case in point, i wrote my last mortgage payment 11/15....as of today, it still hasn't cleared, now that ridiculous...but it allowed me to pay some bills i wasnt gonna pay until today......they need to hurry and cash that ish though, its time for the Dec payment now. It takes so long because they send the check to the new company....i still dont have a payment coupon for the new company, i have no clue where im supposed to send my payment too....